Thursday, March 30, 2006

FARMINGTON - LETS BE HONEST

I would like to briefly respond to Fran's entry on the blogger slackers. Although I took no offense to his posting, I would like to comment on one fact, Aboslutely NO ONE has responded, commented, whatever on the fact that I posted that Tanner is going in for surgery tomorrow. No well-wishers, nothing! There have been no comments on anything that I have posted so far and it feels or seems that a select few of you are corresponding back and forth on what is posted and for me, well, I feel it is a waste of my time, no one responds, no one answers, I feel like I (we) are out of the "circle". Sorry, you asked for honesty. Don't take offense...I am at the point right now where my left brain is asking my right brain if I should really post this or not, "do it.." "No don't do it " Oops my left brain won!
You must think I am crazy...(smiles)

5 comments:

Kuoppala's & in-laws said...

From Elizabeth:

There is far too much pain in the world. Jody, i'm sorry you feel left out of the circle. You are family to me, and I think to us all. One of the unfortunate side-effects of a large family is that its easy to feel lost - and i suspect that its even easier for the sons- and daughters-in-law to feel excluded.

I've been excited about this blog and the opportunity to connect and to see photos and hear about people's big news and daily goings-on.

Today in Minneaplis there's a memorial service for a homeless teenager who committed suicide; his mother, also homeless, froze to death outside this winter. At the service were dozens of other homeless people. I was not there but i thought about them and i wept for the sorry state of humanity. I did not send a card, I did not make any phone calls, I did nothing other than let myself hurt and then re-dedicate myself to this work i do.

I love the blog because it gives me a break from my job; it reminds me of games of Taboo and of holidays spent together; and of so many ups and downs that we've weathered together as a family.

Please don't judge my level of care and concern by the frequency of my posts. Please try to accept me for the imperfect person I am and know that you hold a special place in my heart.

You are right. There should have been comments - it would have been a loving and supportive thing to do. But we are clumsy people, all of us. And though we hurt you, i hope you will not pull back, but that you'll step up with open arms, and somehow feel a collective hug.

That's my 52 cents. And Tailor's too.

Kuoppala's & in-laws said...

Elizabeth:
Thanks for the words of support and I was just having a "moment". I was not home for more than 2 minutes when my phone rang and its was Jenny. You all know me as the upbeat, positive, happy-go-lucky sort of person who never says a bad or negative thing about anything. I have always felt lucky to have married in to such a wonderful, large and fun family. My feelings are so small compared to how others (more unfortunate that myself) must feel, as you say the homeless.
As I told Jenny, I love seeing the pictures of her kids on here because if she didn't post them, I would ever get the chance to see her kids grow up. I am sorry that I took something so positive and turned it in to something so negative. I did feel that collective hug.

Kuoppala's & in-laws said...

Heather called. Maybe I got this
comment thing figured out. Didn't
work last time. I sent Tanner an
e-mail! Got his address from
Brian. Hope he checked his e-mails. I concur with what Elizabeth said. She says things so
much better than I. The reason I
started the Newsletter is 'cuz I
didn't or couldn't remember what I
had told whom! Blog works too but
will still keep doing the Newsletter as everyone does not
have access to a computer.

Kuoppala's & in-laws said...

whatever you do, don't stop the newsletter...it is great entertainment in our house:)
Frans

Kuoppala's & in-laws said...

Jody, please keep us posted on how the surgery goes. I'm thinking about all of you this morning. Heather